How can I increase my girlfriends confidence about her looks?
Apr 24, 2010 | 15 comments
How can I increase her confidence, she’s always saying “I look awful” and “Why are you going with me you can find someone better”.
Is there anything I can say to help her feel more confident? I’m getting really tired of saying there is nothing wrong with the way you look. She’s a kind of big girl and she won’t believe me when I say nothing’s wrong with the way she looks and that I’m attracted to her.
Tell her that she’s pretty, beautiful, funny, attractive, etc. You need to make her feel good and better about herself.
tell her that she is the perfect girl in our eyes n yada yada ya. . .
always tell her she’s beautiful
Tell her that if you ever thought that she wasn’t beautiful inside and out, than you would never have wasted your time with someone as special and pleasant to be with as her. Leave it at that. If she persists tell her that if you see her for herself, than why couldn’t she?
tell her if u thought she ws ugly, you wouldnt be woth her right now and then tell her youd love her if she never wore makeup, never did her hair and went out in hobo clothes.
tell her shes beautiful inside and out and you wwouldnt want tto go out with another woman because none of them would have her personality
then give her a kiss!!!!!!yay confidence!
Just randomly look into her eyes and tell her she looks beautiful
First of all, that’s awesome.
You should just keep telling her that your attracted to her, and that theres no problem with the way she is because she’s exactly the girl you’ve wanted. And maybe even flip the switch and say why is such an attractive girl with you =]
give her a box of chocolates and say “your looking a little skinny, why don’t you eat some chocolates. “
well dude in a way this is a good thing for you, because her lack of confidence in her looks makes her less likely to go off with some other guy, but i understand you care, just do what i HOPE you’ve already been doing just tell her your not ugly, or what ever negative thing shes saying about her self and carry on, if you make her feel shes too beautiful she may start to think shes to good for you but its unlikely. . .
hope i help[ed and please gimme the 10 points :D!!!
You can’t change her. I would site her down and let her know that you aren’t in love with her becuase of how she looks, but how amazing her heart is. Tell her that you can never find another her in the world and thats why you aren’t going out with a more attractive person. Let her know that you love her and hate to hear her talk so terribly about hersself. Ask her if she would treat her best friend like that. Tell her that you love every part of her.
But it is up to her above all to change her opinion on herself and you cant do that for her. She needs to do that herself. You sound like a great boyfriend. Good luck!
Just keep telling her good stuff about her. I had a relationship with a woman like that and she was the best girl around but felt bad about herself because she wasn’t a size 4 or whatever. She never knew how stunning she was and there are women that just can’t seem to see themselves as they are. You should also be sure you let her know the things about her that are unique BESIDES her looks because then she’ll know that you’re not just after a good looking person but one who is good on the inside, which is special and hard to find. Good looks are a dime a dozen, especially these days with all the crap people are doing to look “better. “
Don’t give up dude, keep saying all that stuff and never loose patience, never stop giving the compliments.
she may not act like it, but they mean something, thats why she says things like “I look awful”, so you have a chance to tell her otherwise and give her a little confidence boost.
Anytime she puts herself down, you just tell her the opposite, it works over time, and she may not show it so muc, but it means a lot to her I’m sure.
Also, tell her she’s beautiful and when she looks nice without her saying anything first, if she gets ready and walks out of the room looking nice before she even has a chance tell her how beautiful she look, its a long process but it’ll get through eventually.
If she looks beautiful, tell her. Ever have a moment when you think “Wow, I’m a lucky guy. ” Say it.
Not just after she says, “I look awful. ” Just whenever.
Once, when I was gross and sweaty and blotchy face and my hair was a mess, and I had dirt and oil all over me (mechanic activities) and my guy told be how beautiful I looked. It made me feel really, really good.
He’s a sweet-talker. Oh. He said that my best feature was my smile, because it’s more than a feature, but an expression and it shows your personality . . . And damn.
Well if you really are attracted to her,then tell her she’s beautiful at random times,like when you’re going on a date,or having a romantic moment,or if she’s in a pair of sweats,but don’t overdo it or she’ll think you’re just saying it for the hell of it. Tell her she’s sexy,get specific about what makes her sexy,whether it be something physical such as breasts,butt,hair,waist,thighs lips,or mental such as her confidence,outgoing personality.
hold her hand in public,maybe you could give her a gift card/certificate to a spa,and she’ll feel much more beautiful. Go shopping with her and pick out clothes you think would look good on her and if she says i won’t look good in that,tell her you like the way it accentuates her ____
But be genuine when you compliment her
My friend, what you have here is called a female with low self-esteem.
There are a couple of things you can say to her “self-defeating” statements. “I look awful” Response . . . “Really? Now tell me, why do you think I would want to date someone who “looks awful” ? Quite simply, I wouldn’t. So, obviously, I do not share your view of how you look. ”
“Why are you going with me you can find someone better. ” Response . . . “Of all the females I know, you are the one I choose to be with. Does my opinion of you mean so little to you that you would try to make me go away?”
Please notice, not once in there do I attempt to tell her or reassure her, that she is pretty or not ugly. This is called SELF-esteem for a reason. It isn’t called “others-esteem”.
When you have to respond to her low self-esteem comments, just remember to use the word “I”. “I think you look pretty” “I think I love you more then any other female I know”. Because using statements like, “You are pretty. ” or “There’s nothing wrong with how you look. ” will all fall upon deaf ears. She’s suffering from low self-esteem. SHE doesn’t even believe those statements about herself, so why would she believe them from you? Truth being, she won’t. So, if you stick to statements that start with the word “I”, she’ll have much less to argue about.
Personally tho, if she continues upon this little self-pity trip much longer without looking for professional help, I’d go ahead and dump her. After all, how much longer will it be before you start to resent having to build her up all the time? Another week? Another month? 3 months? (its already starting to work on you. . . you posted this question)
5 years?
. . . . . . . how about another 10 years?
Get her some help, she’s almost screaming for it now.